unEXpected people...Unexpected stories

There are times when you will pity yourself for having trusted someone so much that they failed you. Failed you at your own way of looking at things...maybe hinting at you to change your way!

well the proverb goes right...we look so long at the closed door that we fail to see the one that is open. we yearn to get what we need...we fail to take what's coming to us naturally. we wait to hear from those we 'want to hear from'...that we fail to hear a new experience or sound from an unfamiliar friend. Our brain(s) are accustomed to feeling bad or not so right after someone pushes us down the ditch. It's time to tune it differently..just think" the game has changed or the rules have".

Expecting everybody to share with you what you want to know about their life is like making an investment and asking for returns beyond what is normal. Little does the other person know that you are so curious to know everything about him or her. But we create the game, we set the rules. Letting someone (someone that we don't expect/like) ask us questions about our lives seems like the least of our expectations. Similarly you need to understand that everybody plays a game and sets rules for themselves. You want to participate, follow their rule. Your rules and that of others may overlap...that is all you need to break in. Once you do, you will see no big deal. Most often, you will end up realizing that you both play the same kinda game and your stories and miseries are no different. This is what some people call 'wavelength' I guess. And then when one tries to make the faintest of change to the tuning or the rules of his game....the other opts out of the game. Two different ways just don't happen...No wonder you come across so many people whom you like at one point in life and  a few years down the line, you cant stand them. The ones that are constant in your life....do not have anything different happening than you.Old friends coming together is just a matter of convenience. Me liking your game and its rules will make me play it, no matter how old I am or how many years later we meet (if we do).Everything is a matter of personal choice...friendship, experience, feeling, location, health.